One of the principal ideas on which Carl Rogers based his work, was that we know what is best for us.

To access that wisdom is the work of therapy.

A long time ago Euripides, the Greek dramatist, expressed a similar insight:

The wisest follow their own direction
And listen to no prophet guiding them.
None but the foolish believe in oracles,
Forsaking their own judgment. Those who know,
Know that such men can only come to grief.

Centuries later, William Blake echoed the belief:

I must Create a System, or be
Enslav’d by another Man’s:
I will not Reason and Compare:
My business is to Create.

More recently, Thoreau expressed it pithily:

"Let everyone mind his own business, and endeavour to be what he was made."


To accept change often feels frightening. But in 1727 Alexander Pope put a very positive view of change:

"A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today then he was yesterday."

And Bob Earll points out that, "It is not the change causes us the pain, but the resistance to change."


Carl Rogers’ insistence that we can only appreciate how the world is for others when we try to see it from their point of view - "to stand in their shoes" - is expressed simply and clearly by the main character, Atticus, in the film of "To Kill a Mockingbird", when he says to Scout, his young daughter:

"If you learn just this single thing, you’ll get along with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person till you consider things from his point of view, till you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it."


After all, we simply never know what lies ahead.
As a Swedish Proverb says:

The afternoon knows what the morning never suspected


But it's important to begin, isn't it ?

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.


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